Tough Wisdom?

As we age, we, hopefully, qain wisdom in our everyday lives. Wisdom is a funny thing. It means different things to different people. The dictionary defines wisdom as “understanding of what is true, right, or lasting.” Most people think of wisdom as how to make it through every day without getting fired, killed, or divorced. The wise person gets to stick around another day. We gain wisdom by observing our own behavior and noticing what we have done that worked to our benefit, and what we did that screwed us up. And then not repeating the negative behavior.
Wise people can enhance their lives everyday by understanding their past. They modify their reactions, and attitudes, to get what they want and do what want. So why do we get stuck along the way? What makes us stop wanting to be wise?
Familiarity and comfort are the two biggest culprits in my book. We enjoy the comforts we have created and become too familiar with our surroundings to let go and wise up. For almost all of us, there is always something better. We just need to wise up and pursue it. But fear of loss or change will stop us dead in our tracks. And we stay in our comfort zone, happy but not wiser. This is also a good thing, but sad also. If we stay in the comfort zone but acquire more wisdom, that is better. But is it enough? It can be. But only if we can act upon the wisdom we gain.
Personally, I am at that crossroads. It’s called a mid-life crisis. Maybe it’s really mid-life paranioa and doubt. “Pleased to meet you, hope you guessed my name”. That’s a quote from the Stones tune Sympathy for the Devil. The devil is in the details. Details, details, details! Kind of like location, makes all the difference in the world. What happens when you have the wisdom, but not the ability to change that which is right, true, and lasting? I think, after dealing with situations like this all of my life, that we tend to give up and accept that our reality will never change. Truly depressing. (That’s a different blog.) Wisdom becomes secondary to survival, and maintaining the current comfort level becomes the primary motivation for the rest of our lives.
Whatever we do in our lives, we should never just accept our status quo. Always try to better ourselves. Overcome our limitations and improve our quality of life for ourselves and our children. If we stop doing this then we should just give up and die and let the next generation do what we stopped trying to do. Leave the wisdom to the (gasp, oh, hell no!) younger generation. WTF! Really! They don’t have any wisdom yet! But they have the desire and, hopefully, the ability to acquire wisdom. The two things that are the major factors of a mid-life crisis. Have I stopped learning? No. Am I stupid? To the point of being unable to learn? No, but there is a definite decrease in the desire. Comfort and familiarity are great. But we (I) need and want more. Hence the crisis. When one’s ability exceeds their means, it gets frustrating. Makes us want to quit sometimes. Or at the least, concentrate on the familiar even more. Fear is not the best motivator. Good, but not the best. Fear motivates you to comfort. Desire motivates you to a different and hopefully better place.
Still have to finish evaluating this current crisis. It is going to take a while. Probably is going to mean a number of uncomfortable life changes. Starting with lifestyle and location. I have been wanting to move for a while. Anybody interested in a 3/2.5 tri level. 2800sq ft house in SW Denver? And have been pursuing a relationship status change for a while too. (Yet another blog. Lol) So the object of today’s lesson is is to never stop learning and make educated decisions about your life. Use the wisdom you have acquired in your life to make better and self improving changes. Do not blindly accept the status quo. Change it to fit your needs and desires. That is some Tough Wisdom!…

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